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Be pacified
Ever wondered why we get too distressed over malfunctions around that are not within our power to control - the hold up on the way to work every morning, the rains when we planned a picnic, the sudden visit from home that is going to cost you extra expenses, disciplinary measures over offenses you did not commit, having to apologize for offenses you are totally ignorant of, having to wait for hours at the airport at the expense of waiting appointments that you mustn’t miss, etcetera.
How about deaths, miscarriages, terminal illnesses, that sack letter, that dead end job on your hands, the tight schedules and wanton queries. You see, personally I have run into relationships I had great hopes in, though they ended up in regrets. Now I’m saying relationships because they happened over and over. You might have had more unmemorable experiences than me. But we all have one thing in common when we recall pains – we hardly want a second episode.
Oh come to think of it, some times we blunder our way off the tracks and get ourselves sadder than we imagined, and those around pissed off beyond we can apologize - you send the wrong mails sometimes and the replies go to your boss, you forget to act and someone dies as a result, you call a shot that gets the whole team suspended; how about getting caught on your first flirt, or say you broke that Arabian jug on the boss’ table, or you posted millions into the wrong account and you can't unfix the domino effect .
Life seems to bring more than we can bear, at times. Our emotions are tried, bamboozled and we are left with surging feelings that bring out the unexpected out of our planned and learned behavioural patterns. And that these fluctuations and flows of negative emotions are unkind to our nervous and general health, make them all the more of interest. Some of us fall into having to maintain or develop habits to help us cope with these circumstances – cigarettes, alcohol, hard drugs, whatever takes our mind off the present.
From a point of view, it is more understandable why we slump at pains, than why the pains originated in the first place. Did I say “why?” . Yes, “why?”. The one word that calls for reasons: reason for this and reason for that; the reason we don’t get it the way we love to have it, “for heaven’s sake!”
But for starters, note that no one and nothing, I repeat, no one and nothing, has the right or power to keep you unhappy. You ought to be happy. You deserve to be happy! It is your right!! We don’t have all eternity to live here, so we ought to have our sense of peace adapted to the moments. Don’t forget this: We have to adapt to the truth, reality, facts of the moments”. Can’t we change the circumstances to meet up with our dreams and plans? Together we will work it out, easily.
Thanks.
How about deaths, miscarriages, terminal illnesses, that sack letter, that dead end job on your hands, the tight schedules and wanton queries. You see, personally I have run into relationships I had great hopes in, though they ended up in regrets. Now I’m saying relationships because they happened over and over. You might have had more unmemorable experiences than me. But we all have one thing in common when we recall pains – we hardly want a second episode.
Oh come to think of it, some times we blunder our way off the tracks and get ourselves sadder than we imagined, and those around pissed off beyond we can apologize - you send the wrong mails sometimes and the replies go to your boss, you forget to act and someone dies as a result, you call a shot that gets the whole team suspended; how about getting caught on your first flirt, or say you broke that Arabian jug on the boss’ table, or you posted millions into the wrong account and you can't unfix the domino effect .
Life seems to bring more than we can bear, at times. Our emotions are tried, bamboozled and we are left with surging feelings that bring out the unexpected out of our planned and learned behavioural patterns. And that these fluctuations and flows of negative emotions are unkind to our nervous and general health, make them all the more of interest. Some of us fall into having to maintain or develop habits to help us cope with these circumstances – cigarettes, alcohol, hard drugs, whatever takes our mind off the present.
From a point of view, it is more understandable why we slump at pains, than why the pains originated in the first place. Did I say “why?” . Yes, “why?”. The one word that calls for reasons: reason for this and reason for that; the reason we don’t get it the way we love to have it, “for heaven’s sake!”
But for starters, note that no one and nothing, I repeat, no one and nothing, has the right or power to keep you unhappy. You ought to be happy. You deserve to be happy! It is your right!! We don’t have all eternity to live here, so we ought to have our sense of peace adapted to the moments. Don’t forget this: We have to adapt to the truth, reality, facts of the moments”. Can’t we change the circumstances to meet up with our dreams and plans? Together we will work it out, easily.
Thanks.
